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1. Punishing young children
I assume you mean younger than say 3ish. And physical punishment. If my 3 yo is hitting me with a toy I will take it away and consider it punishment and tell him its not ok to hit. Others may consider it distraction.
2. Putting young children in time-out
Again under 3ish?
3. Letting babies/children "cry it out"
I agree to an extent. Some times they do just need to cry if all other needs have been met. Although most of the time I would still be holding them while they cried it out.
4. Making children do things "because they have to learn"
What kind of things? My son wants money, so we made a list of chores together because he has to learn they money isn't free. He is expected to complete half the list each week to earn his money.
5. Putting young children in daycare
I agree, what do you do if you have no other options?
6. Saying "good boy/girl" and "naughty boy/girl"
I agree, I chastise myself for this, I feel like I'm talking to a dog.
7. Using intimidation (bullying)
I agree but I do it sometimes, telling my children what their behavior will bring them as adults.
8. Using rewards (bribery)
Tricky one. I believe if I give them something now and say do this for me its a bribe. But if I make arrangements with them that they do something in exchange for something afterward its not bribery. Its an incentive.
9. Using threats
Bad idea, rarely effective but I've used it on extreme occasion I'm sure.
10. Toilet training at a particular age
Totally agree. Let their bodies set the pace. I had one fully trained at 2.5 and my 8 year old still wets most nights. Nothing medically/psychologically wrong with him.
11. Forcing young children to share/use manners
Share = not til about 3.5 before that I used distraction the most.
Manners = I'm a stickler for manners.
12. Using DVD baby-sitter
Agree. Used it too much with my daughter, not as much with my son. But I think I let it happen naturally too much than I depended on it.