You have to have a certain number of posts to have an avatar I think.hwnorth said:Lissa - If I had the first clue as to post my pic beside my name like some do .. then I would
You have to have a certain number of posts to have an avatar I think.hwnorth said:Lissa - If I had the first clue as to post my pic beside my name like some do .. then I would
Something puzzles me. If the reason the kids left was because there is just something about you makes people feel intimidated, then why didn't they feel intimidated the first time you spoke to them? Or the second? If it's your appearance that intimidated them then they wouldn't have dared tell you to F yourself. Just curious on this one.I recall an instance at McDonalds one day... there was a number of kids in there... loud.. swearing .. unruly ... throwing food. I asked them twice, nicely, as it was a family area and there were families with kids around ... and I even said please ... after being told to F### myself... I removed the kids from the restaurant ... and got an applause .. not that I need nor look for one .. but when the staff wont even do something ...who will ??
I guess you would have to see me in person to know the diff between my smiling happy side and when Ive had enough. As well if you follow the posts you will see that I mention its not just looks, its how I hold and carry myself.gr8mom said:Something puzzles me. If the reason the kids left was because there is just something about you makes people feel intimidated, then why didn't they feel intimidated the first time you spoke to them? Or the second? If it's your appearance that intimidated them then they wouldn't have dared tell you to F yourself. Just curious on this one.
Okay, I sort of see your point. But, none of MY children would have been alone at McDonald's at the age of ten, or twelve, or even fourteen. I'm just old-fashioned and overprotective like that. THAT'S why I was getting so upset over your behavior. In the situation you were in, I would have reported it to the manager...and if that didn't work, then I would have called the police to report a public disturbance, then let the parents deal with the call to come pick up their juvenile deliquents.hwnorth said:Teresa - let me say again that there was no parents there... and there wasnt anything "physical" ... the children were escorted out of the building ... just like they do at any place that has security... The people running the place were a few women who were obviously scared and feared doing anything. I really dont give a rats WHOS child it is or how good of parent thy think they are .. when a child it tossing food etc around and telling others to F### OFF ... then by all means call the police ... at that point I would be looking at ones parenting skills and not how bad the big man was who showed our child what respect is all about.
Then what give YOU the right to force YOUR values and respect on others? It's a two way street, isn't it?Why is it that your parenting skills HAVE to be respected, and my personal boundaries dont? .. what gives another the right for force their values and respect, or lack there of, on me?
Newsflash....when my kids need a tune up, I'M the one giving it, not some stranger who doesn't know jack about our family or our lives.I get the feeling, as I posted above .. that many are posting in here for the simple fact of an argument and the "no one will ever touch my child cause Im a perfect mother/father" .... news flash ... NONE of us are perfect .. and once in a while a little tune up is in order
Well said Aunt. I aree 100%Aunt said:I think everyone is being just a little harsh on the shut up lady. She did not beat the kid, she simply had a weak moment of frustration. A naughty child being told to shut up is hardly going to be scarred for life!
Having said that I think lecturing strangers on how to raise their kids is unreasonably judgmental and asking for trouble. If my kid had been the noisemaker I would have told them in front of the offended adult that the lady was cross becasue their behavior was crude and then had them apologise. I would then send them out of ear shot and say something in a humorous fashion to let her know i dont like the kid being told to shut up. Something like this;
"I am sorry that my kid decided to be obnoxious. His father swears and farts like a sailor so monkey see monkey do. Were trying to work on this so that when he leaves for college I may have an outside chance of leaving the house with him and not being mortified. it would make my job really easy if the next time he does this you could tell him without swearing that he is disturbing you.
sorry I have to lol hereot the bratty-acting kids behaving like rabid monkey,
We frequently refer to our kids (out of their earshot) as "the wild monkeys" or the "rampaging hoarde". So obviously they are not perfect all the time.Kaytee said:sorry I have to lol here
uh, sorry. in australia 'dickhead' isn't really a swear word.musicmom said:****heads??? Nice.
Does d*** mean something other then what it means here in the US? I just couldn't see calling a child that, ever.evilbrent said:uh, sorry. in australia 'dickhead' isn't really a swear word.
A parent abusing a child is very different from a kid misbehaving, both legally and morally. The OP started by talking about a 4-5 yo who was squealing and making farting noises in a library. This raises separate issues than a mother abusing her child for 20 minutes.dfelix said:I watched her mentally abuse he son for about 20 minutes at which point I got up, walked over to her and gave her a piece of my mind.
Anyway, when I see things that are not acceptable, I will say something otherwise it would be difficult living with myself knowing I had done nothing.
not wrong.Aunt said:I make this comment having lived in Australia for a year as a student. Brent please correct me if this perception is wrong.
MM the people in those parts are fairly robust and have a dry and saucy sort of wit. Thus Dickhead is a sort of profanity but nobody would blink if you said it to a kid as old as 14.
I can remember being on a plane in OZ and overhearing a man tell the waitress his cup of coffee was cold. Her reply was "sit on it for a minute. that 'l warm it up" I thought he would be mad but he just laughed. The sense of humor really I think is the reason why people seem more relaxed over there.
oh, it means the same thing. it's just not a swear word really.musicmom said:Does d*** mean something other then what it means here in the US? I just couldn't see calling a child that, ever.