Cop2be said:
Whatever. Excuse the piss out of me and my boyfriend for worrying about my brother and his clear path to nowhere currently, my mom doesn't care and my grandmother has cut him off financially till he gets his crap together.
First - that is no way to talk to people you are expecting to HELP YOU... Not OK. If my daughter talked to me like that at any age, 6, 16, 26, or for that matter, 36 - we'd have a serious talk about respect.
Now.
You come on here, tell us about everything your brother does wrong. You call his girlfriend names and accuse her of being a horrible person. You tell how you boyfriend told him what to do with his life, and claim to be surprised that it wasn't received well. You do all of that in an angry and judgemental tone.
And then you are surprised that we don't give you credit for worrying about your brother?
Have you ever actually talked to him? Do you know what he wants from life? Do you know what he sees in this girl? Do you know anything at all about her, other than the bad behaviour you've described here? Have you bothered to get to know her at all, or are you just judging her on the few times you've seen her do stupid things?
No one is going to give you advice on how to change your brother/mother/whoever, because you can't. If you want to help your brother, then be a good example. Show him how to be an adult. Let your boyfriend be an example of how to be a man. Ask him about this girl, what he sees in her, and why he believes it's ok for her to cheat on him.
You've spend the last few years on here sporadically complaining about how your mother tries to control you and dictate to you what you should do with your life. You've complained about being judged for your clothes and appearance, for have a few drinks, for smoking pot. You didn't get a job until you were 20 or so, and spent many threads on here justifying why you couldn't get a job and complaining that no one understood how difficult it is. And now you are doing exactly that to your brother.
You said it yourself - he's 18, he's an adult. So let him make his own mistakes.
I also don't get how you blame your mother for supporting him and then a few posts later blame your grandmother for not supporting him