parentastic said:and yet, MomoJA, here is what he says about his own actions that day:
So it seems that he knew it was not a hysterical reaction, but a thoughtful and deliberate decision.
How many abused children or battered woman might endure a lifetime of abuse and never find the courage to press charges even once? How many abused people find excuses for their abusers and attempt to protect them? I am not saying this man abused his daughter - we do not know the real full story, only his side of it. But it's <I>possible</I> and this is why, once he has admitted the charges, it doesn't really matter if she retracted herself.
Slapping someone in the face is illegal because it is assault.
It really should not matter whether you do it to your own child or to another adult. It's still not acceptable, and I don't see how one can defend that it should not be made illegal, simply because it's your child?
What I am also interested in, is what lead this adolescent to run to the police and press charges, especially if it truly was the one and only time his dad ever did this. Strange. Why was the father-daughter relationship strained to that extent in the first place?
You said exactly what I was going to reply Parentistic, lol. It surprises me that many people can't see the difference between hitting your child and hitting a stranger. I understand that good loving parents don't beat their children when they mean 'spank' but we can see just from this board alone how each parent views 'spanking' in different ways. What some define as a harmless spank, may actually be an abusive beating. This is the danger with spanking this is why the law has to intervene because many people go overboard when they are angry.
It would be interesting to me if each person who chooses to discipline their child by hitting them or spanking them, would describe the ritual. What physical position is their child in when you spank them. Is it a bare bottom, Are you using your hand or an object, do you hit them on the butt, legs, arms, face, head, ears, nose, stomach, WHERE? Are you angry when you 'spank' them. Do you just lash out and hit them anywhere? Closed fist, open hand, swat, do you speak to them when your spanking? Is your child crying or asking you to stop?? How may hits are enough?
I don't understand spanking so maybe those of you who do 'spank' can explain this to me.
MomoJo I too have worked in Schools and other formal institutions where children learn or live, and where the law requires you to be fingerprinted, I understand why it's done and I appreciate it.
However, when someone is falsely accused of a misconduct and can prove it by having a court dismiss the charges....that person should not have a problem getting his job back especially if he or she had an impeccable record of 15 years. Still hard for me to believe there isn't more going on.