Wow, so many opinions, this is a good topic and one I have discussed many times over with friends. I have a big amount of friends that are surrogates and they have done surrogacies for gay's and lesbians in Canada and in Italy. All of the ones I have met are absolutly wonderful people, the children have male and female roll models.
I don't think there is any one sterio type for abuse, wether it is gays, lesbians, colors, whites. All races, all genders, and all religions have our bad apples.
I think what children need is to be raised in a loving caring family, who cares how that family is made up of. Too many children are in homes or unloves because of the harsh restrictions. Children will be teased no matter what, children will find excuses to tease others, with the right love they will overcome it and be stronger, for it, I did.
My old day care provider was also a foster home, she was called one night to take a little colored girl in who was addicted to cocaine, they nursed her and cared for her and helped ween her of the addiction over almost 2 years (the familyis white) the little girl knew nothing but this family as she was too young to remember her biological family. She was deemed a ward of the Province and the Province decided to adopt her out. My care provider tryied forever to adopt her but the Province told her she could not adopt a different color.
So the Province ended up moving her from home to home for the next 2 years until she was adopted by a family of the same race. When that little girls was first taken out of the only home she new she was tramatized, and 10 years later, my care provider is still heart broken. How was this better for this child??
IMO to much emphasis is placed on race, religion and sexual orientation and the important things are forgotten, Love, nurturing, caring and the joy of having children.