Cleaning it up and then not letting them sleep in... wait that might have been a punishment for mom but cleaning it all up would have been a good solution. See what happens when you get some sleep LOL!!
What are you going to do with the dog when you move to Spain? I really doubt your going to want to take it with you. I also doubt you will find housing that will allow it.veronicadavis said:I have a parenting book, but its from the 70's and its kinda weird. It says tv ratings don't matter and a few other things that i thought were weird (but can't think of at this time).
Its funny that i didn't think of making him clean it! I was so tired. Plus it was a huge mess, I really didn't even think he'd clean it, but he did. He sat on that kitchen floor for hours and filled 2 garbage bags!
Money isn't usually so tight, we're just young, dumb and wasteful. At Christmas we didn't pay any bills and so they were all waiting for us January 1st. Being a military family we pay no rent or utilities. We have a few bills(car, credit card, cable/internet, cell phones, car insurance, personal loan, food), but we aren't broke. Food is our biggest expense and even that would be a LOT cheaper if we'd just go to WIC. We had $60 between us to last to til the 15th, it has to go to gas and now food.
A dog is not that expensive to maintain, it might mean less ordering pizza and dinners at McDonalds, but I can live without those things. I was poor as hell growing up, I'm just now realizing we're middle class now, we aren't a dirt poor family struggling to pay bills.....and in September we're moving to Spain! How cool is that!? I should have married my husband years ago when he wanted to, but my dumb ass thought marriage would ruin things.
Anyway, now I know that having him clean the mess would have been better than the spanking...if only my husbands phone hadn't died he could've suggested that.
Another reason I had wanted to take you guys' advice was because I thought about everyone I know and how they were raised...the spanked ones almost always turned out to be violent, selfish and stupid...the non-spanked ones are more friendly, intelligent and honest.
My friends who don't spank have better behaved kids than my friends who do. My son, my 3 year old, is the sweetest little brat I know, lol. I mean, he gets into things and he sometimes hits his brother, but he's so cuddly and affectionate and cute.
We'll look back at this and laugh someday, I know it. Now I wish I had taken pictures.
As retarded as it may seem, it would likely snap her into reality, HOWEVER this isn't a battle between two adults, it's a battle between two adults and one child... the bigger picture here is the example you would be setting for your son. Do you really want to teach your son that it's okay to hit your wife? He's already getting the impression that it's okay to hit your child. When he's all grown up, that'll be his preferred method of expression... love and hate. Hit and then spoil. I somehow doubt that is the path you wish for him being that you are on this board asking for advice!!FooserX said:lol...that is retarded advice, but thanks.
crimson_moon said:How about this... you can probably see it coming before it does, so rather than allowing it to happen, go stand between her and the child. Whether its hard or not is irrelevent, if she can't control herself, it WILL escalate sooner or later.
Hey Kaytee, what about those lights that stick to the wall that way she can see down the stairs or something like movie theatre lights? Put a gate at the top of the stairs and at the bottom. Thank goodness I don't have stairs, I would be a nervous wreck.:swoon:Kaytee said:I may consider putting a gate on my dd's room at some point. We are upstairs and her room is at the top of the stiairs. but when we made the transition of her in a twin bed, it was no probs! Now when she wakes up at night (almost every night still) she either calls me or comes in my room. I don't mind either. But when she is 3, she may decide its time to go downstairs, then I wold do the gate thing
*murder you*Kaytee said:She potty trained herself over the last two days! (will post in the bragging section in a min)
Sounds like somebody been sleeping on the couch too much latelyFooserX said:How about this...
She can go herself, and do whatever the hell she wants because I won't be around to do anything.
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