Those are some very GOOD thoughts, Fooser....thanks for sharing!!FooserX said:Another thing I think we're missing here, is the pre-hit parenting.
A kid only listens if he/she has to. Like...my son listens to me 99% of the time. With mom, he only listens to her maybe 75%. He knows that she won't punish, or get tough with him until the 4th or 5th time of asking.
So in his mind, he's doesn't need to listen until she's at her limit...but by then it's too late.
So maybe talking to my wife about being consistent up front would help too.
I'd wager to bet Veronica is the same. She has to ask 3 or 4 or 8 times....and the kids don't listen...then she loses it, and thinks it's the kids' fault when it's really the parents.
Just some thoughts.
I think you hit the nail on the head there FooserFooserX said:Another thing I think we're missing here, is the pre-hit parenting.
A kid only listens if he/she has to. Like...my son listens to me 99% of the time. With mom, he only listens to her maybe 75%. He knows that she won't punish, or get tough with him until the 4th or 5th time of asking.
So in his mind, he's doesn't need to listen until she's at her limit...but by then it's too late.
So maybe talking to my wife about being consistent up front would help too.
I'd wager to bet Veronica is the same. She has to ask 3 or 4 or 8 times....and the kids don't listen...then she loses it, and thinks it's the kids' fault when it's really the parents.
Just some thoughts.
The same buddy I spoke about in my previous post had a dad who wasn't a very big guy, but when he said "Take out the trash" or whatever, he only said it once. All the kids in their family knew he meant business. I don't think the guy ever laid a hand on any one of his kids, he just had an air\look of authority and the kids naturally fell in line when they where told what to do.FooserX said:A kid only listens if he/she has to. Like...my son listens to me 99% of the time. With mom, he only listens to her maybe 75%. He knows that she won't punish, or get tough with him until the 4th or 5th time of asking.
exactly fooser - never lie to your kid, don't even tell untruths. Let your yes be yes and your no be no and your "Get here right now" be your "Get here right now".FooserX said:Another thing I think we're missing here, is the pre-hit parenting.
A kid only listens if he/she has to. Like...my son listens to me 99% of the time. With mom, he only listens to her maybe 75%. He knows that she won't punish, or get tough with him until the 4th or 5th time of asking.
So in his mind, he's doesn't need to listen until she's at her limit...but by then it's too late.
So maybe talking to my wife about being consistent up front would help too.
I'd wager to bet Veronica is the same. She has to ask 3 or 4 or 8 times....and the kids don't listen...then she loses it, and thinks it's the kids' fault when it's really the parents.
Just some thoughts.
I think that's my new mottoevilbrent said:exactly fooser - never lie to your kid, don't even tell untruths. Let your yes be yes and your no be no and your "Get here right now" be your "Get here right now".
fallon said:I think that's my new motto
Eric, There are three moderators in this forum; Kaytee, Fallon, and myself. We've been here nearly everyday since the day we each first arrived individually. We volunteer our time to help keep the forum headed in the right direction and to offer any advice we might have. I professionally work in software development, and do this because I am reasonably good it based on having been on the Internet nearly every day for the past 15+ years. I even go back further into the dialup BBS forums running at 14k-28K. I am however have bad spelling, even worse grammar, and can't proof read my own messages.eric@sealguide said:P.S Jtee do you work here, or are you just on the site a lot?
Thanks, I do use that, and I am still pretty bad. I agree spelling\grammar really is not too big of a deal and I don't think any less of others who can't spell.musicmom said:Hey Jtee if you click on the ABC on the right it should prompt you do get a spell check downloaded. I'm sure you probably already know that but if you are worried about your spelling that would help.
I hate it when people worry about other's spelling. I downloaded the spell check myself...hahaha
I type so fast that I often make mistakes and I teach school...go figure.
What most people do, or should do, is use the "Today's Posts"eric@sealguide said:Wow thanks for your time. That's great that you do that. A very worthy cause.
I'm having a tough time tracking the replies to my posts. Like I don't even know how I got here?
Is there a place on the site that will pull up threads that I'm in?
I get the email alerts, but they don't seem to cover everything.