Ok, thank you SO MUCH MUSICMOM for finally telling everyone on here why you are so stereotypical. You really must drink when you post. Let me tell you something girl, you reallly need to come to grips with your past if you are ever going to have any kind of future. You have made some of the stupidest "typical disgruntled stepchild" comments I have ever heard. Nothing I say or do is going to please you except to say ok, you're right. I'm going to make my own children sacrificial lambs for the sake of my stepchild. Truly, that is the only thing people like you want to hear. It does not matter which of the children came first. We have 3 children now, not just one. You talk of the typical stepmother attitude. It really sucks for you that you had the stepmother from hell. If your attitude as a child is as bad as it as now, you might want to think about why your life was not so great. Parent divorce. That's life and you don't always get what you want. And no, don't think I don't know first hand of which I speak. I too, like YOU, was that child left behind while my mother went off with her "new family" as you put it. I know the hurt, the anger, and namely the jealousy that you feel when this happens. But guess where we are different. I did not go and try to ruin every visit I had with my mother and new stepfamily as it sounds like you did. I treated my mother and stepfamily with love and respect as I still do to this day.
Let me tell you something YOU need to ponder. I can sum it up for you in one word. FORGIVENESS. Look it up, think about it, print it out, and try applying it to your life. You would be very surprised as to the wonders it can do for your relationship you don't seem to have with your own family. Until you can get past your own unhappy full of rage childhood, and your own parents parenting, you have no business even offering anyone else parenting advice. If all you wanted was stepchildren, why on earth do you have any of your own. Trust me, I'm not trying to be nasty, unlike you. I think you really need to come to grips with your past. I had the same past too, but thankfully it hasn't left me as bitter a person as you are. I truly hope things can calm down in your life. I have also learned that even devoting any minute of my time to people like you who are so pissed off at the world anyways, is totally not worth my time. It's like beating your head against a brick wall. It's not going to move and just really gives you a headache.
Seriously though, lose the attitude. It's people like you that totally hate stepmothers from day one. You already have your preconceived notions about them, just as you do me and nothing they say/do is going to make you happy because you can't get over your own jealousy. Good luck to you girl. This thread has turned completely ridiculous, and not worth my time. Again, forgiveness. Look it up. Apply it. Karma girl.....................
I'm out of here. I have children to raise, not bones to pick.