ok im a newie here. but this post caught my eye and i had to reply, i got to page 5 and gave up reading the rest, cos i felt i hd to give my opinion as most of it shocked me as to wat i read.
Back to the original post..............
IMHO as most say looking up porn on the internet is acceptable as its just pic's so its not classed as cheating,
but any form of relationship in a sexual manner via the internet is cheating, as in this day and age this is how most people meet and get together and whom they find thier current spouses thru.
Talking to people and having a laugh via the internet is fun, as long as its just friendly and does not cross the boundaries with sexual talk etc.
I have been thru all that with my ex husband, we members of a car club on a forum and lots of people were dating on there afyter chattin and meeting up at meets, my ex was having a cyber affair with a woman via the forum, i knew when he changed his paswords and wouldnt let me red his mail or anything as which he used to let me do, and i did with him as we had nothing to hide from each other at all, we were open and honest with each other til i got post natal depression from our son and for a while i felt like the guys wife who posted this thread, but instead of him talking about cheating and prob also actual cheating wen meeting this woman at a meet, which i dare say he did as they went off togetehr a few times for a few hours at a time and left me with her husband.
When a woman is going thru depression its for a reason.....
first for me it started off as post natal depression, it worsened cos my ex worked offshore and was hardly at home, and then wen he was home he was useless as an ashtry on a motorbike with regards to our son, ok he did take a bit of responsibiluty but only as much as he wanted all he wanted was back on to his car forum every day.
he'd moan wen i didnt do house work, moan if i didnt look nice etc.
I didnt have time cos all i did was look after my son.
NOw wat i am trying to say is, wen a woman is depressed she needs some kind of attention, she may not always tell you what? but most of the time she craves TLC even if she dont wanna have sex it dont mean she dont want a cuddle every so often, she needs romance, to still know her husband loves her and to be told.
if she does not want cuddles, do other things to make her feel appreciated, like come home from work one day with a bunch of flowers just to show you care, anything that adds a lil spark of romance, she'll soon come back round
Do you know what the cause of her depression is? have you talked to her about it? showed you care at all? done anything to help?
Instead of talking about cheating, you should be being more supportive of your wife if you love her and helping her thru the depression and making things work in your marriage not thinking of going off with anyone else as if she finds out you have it will only worsen her situattion and will take her longer to get over the depression.
I didnt have a very understanding or supportive husband, my depression took almost 2 yrs to get over. i had to split from my husband and stupidly i jmped staright into another relationship taht didnt work out in the end, had an affair with a married man whom is my best friend and i am stupidly 8 months pregnant again, but during that time of splitting with that person i jumped into a realtionship with i had a period for almost a yr on my own with my son and i feel so much a better person now that i have learned a great deal for myself and not having anyone around etc.
But now i have found happiness with a good friend i have had for 5yrs, (longer than i knew or was married to my ex for) one day we cliked 8 weeks ago and we are so happy and he is very very supportive thru my pregnancy and wants to be dad
so now i couldnt be happier as found a great man, my only regret is that it wasnt him i married wen i married my husband, life would have been so much diff if i had.
So if you love your wife, spoil her, romance her, talk to her instead of thinking of cheating as one day you'll lose her altogether! and you'll be left with nothing!
Threefold law.... what you give out comes back times 3, and i strongly believe that, bad karma, good karma etc