I think you asked a good question earlier Tad.
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You seem to think you responded to my argument. I am saying there is no point in doing something unless you have convincing evidence it works. Even if it's harmless, there is no point in doing it.</I>
So I'll explain my reasons. First let me clarify that all my children are over the age where I would spank them. BUT.. I have and there are times I wish I could again. I can only remember a handful of times that they got them.
I agree that there are good ways to teach children to listen, be good, and to grow. Most of it is through being consistent with what you expect, by a lot of repetitive persistence, and setting the example of what you want. I tried to incorporate in their lives examples of who I wanted them to respect, ideas that I wanted them to consider, and give clear cut boundaries on what I would not tolerate and gave them the reason why. We talked alot. For everything that I pushed, all but one of them has become or are becoming someone I'm super proud of. The one I'm still pushing there with both hands and feet and praying a bit. YOU CAN TEACH through these methods. They can learn.
NOW.. that being said, its a tough road and takes a lot of patience and understanding from parents that one lesson is not enough. It takes 10-100x of explaining to a little one why he should share, or why homework has to be done before he plays.. or that the room needs to be picked up before bedtime. They learn it.. but over time. And that was okay with me.. for things like that.
Spankings work too. The response that I received from a spanking however, was immediate. I don't think that I ever had to repeat those lessons. I reserved them for things that I needed an immediate compliance on. On things I was not willing to take a chance on them repeating. Drew, sticking his fork in the light socket.. him walking out to the pool without asking... Adam riding his bike on the roadway.. alone.. Jess leaving the "safe" area to play where she couldn't hear me calling her. Things we'd talked about already, that were dangerous to them to do, and that I wasn't willing to take a chance of them doing it again when my back was turned. Somethings are not worth risking their life for the second less hurtful lesson. When you say its not effective, I know that it's not true. I know for a fact that the few times they earned that lesson, it worked because they never received a 2nd spanking for the same offense. In all honesty, they've all only gotten a few a piece to begin with.. but learned from them when I told them that "this rule is to keep you safe" that was the clue that by breaking it a whooping was forth coming and they just didn't test those boundaries too often.
For me.. I'd do it all again the same way. I never laid a hand on those children because I was angry. I never spanked them in a fit of emotions. It was just like the other punishments.. a lesson I needed them to know.. immediately. My youngest is still on the earth because of a spanking he had.. there is no doubt in my mind about that. I'm not advocating for other parents to beat the snot out of their children. But I am telling you that a spanking from time to time when its a lesson that you can not take a chance on them forgetting..well it worked for me. I'd do it all again the same way. Regardless of statistics and expert opinions. In fact.. I have 22 years of experience in parenting.. so I just may be an expert!