I was physically disciplined until I was nearly an adult. There was no question that spanking and other methods of physical discipline were used in my home out of anger, and that the intention was to inflict pain that would be remembered. However, it did not make me behave worse, and it probably stopped a lot of behavior I might otherwise have engaged in, knowing what the consequences were.
All 8 of us children, love, respect, and seek advice from our father, who was the disciplinarian. Also, growing up, we were the family all the other children in the neighborhood were judged against - "Why can't you be more like those --- children?" Seven of us have advanced degrees, and the one who doesn't lived abroad while her husband worked as a physician. I, as the teacher, am the least financially secure, and the only one who is divorced. (I've always been the black sheep of the family.) The other marriages have lasted so far from 21 years to 5 years. None of us has ever been arrested, etc. None of us have ever blamed our parents for anything that has gone wrong in our lives like I've heard many of my friends do.
Having said that, I don't really want to use spanking on my child, and I certainly wouldn't use it with a child older than say 8 or 9.
All 8 of us children, love, respect, and seek advice from our father, who was the disciplinarian. Also, growing up, we were the family all the other children in the neighborhood were judged against - "Why can't you be more like those --- children?" Seven of us have advanced degrees, and the one who doesn't lived abroad while her husband worked as a physician. I, as the teacher, am the least financially secure, and the only one who is divorced. (I've always been the black sheep of the family.) The other marriages have lasted so far from 21 years to 5 years. None of us has ever been arrested, etc. None of us have ever blamed our parents for anything that has gone wrong in our lives like I've heard many of my friends do.
Having said that, I don't really want to use spanking on my child, and I certainly wouldn't use it with a child older than say 8 or 9.