I'm sure this has been talked about but I'm really torn.
My in-laws hate me. I mean HATE! The Grandfather has called me everything under the sun besides a white woman. The Dad has told me he wishes his son would wise up and leave. The Dad's wife has said that I cause all types of issues between the family. The only thing they agree on is that my child is a very good baby and they aren't sure if she's mine.
So here's a little background:
We have been married 6 years. I got married at 19 and the day before we got married The Grandfather asked me what I was going to do to financially support his grandson. My reply was we will support each other.
We were married for 4 1/2 years and I moved out due to his drinking and other issues we had. Well...my name was mud. We decided to try again and I moved back in and got pregnant 2 months later. It was rocky while I was pregnant and not always a walk in the park. Still isn't. I know every marriage has its rough spots but ours haven't really gotten better except for the fact that he doens't drink as much.
So here's where they got really crappy towards me. His brother got into a terrible car accident on Easter. Their mother who left when they were about 3 and 4 found out from my husband. She called me every day asking how the brother was. Now mind you...they have had contact with her and visitation since the day she left. She lives in WA so she flew here that next Saturday. The Wednesday before she got here EVERYONE called me chewing me a new you know what saying I was causing issues and "that woman" should not be even thinking about coming to see her son who ALMOST died. I had nothing to do with their mother coming to visit. My view is if the boys want their mother in their life so be it. She is one of the nicest people I have ever met in my life and would do anything for us.
I spoke to her and let her know what was going on with instructions from my husband. Yeah...big mistake I guess.
So...his brother pulled some crap the other night with me and after I got off the phone I told my husband that I was done with his family. That was the last time they were going to walk all over me and make me a doormat. I've tried as much as I humanly can. I'm tired of it.
What do I do? It's putting a wedge between us. They pretty much do the same thing to my husband and his excuse for not standing up to them is "they are my family." Family or not family people do not deserve the crap these people dish out. I really don't want my daughter knowing them because when she's old enough to realize them for who they are she will be very disappointed. But as far as them seeing her I don't say much because I will let her make her own decisions about them.
I think I need a therapist!
Sorry its so long!
My in-laws hate me. I mean HATE! The Grandfather has called me everything under the sun besides a white woman. The Dad has told me he wishes his son would wise up and leave. The Dad's wife has said that I cause all types of issues between the family. The only thing they agree on is that my child is a very good baby and they aren't sure if she's mine.
So here's a little background:
We have been married 6 years. I got married at 19 and the day before we got married The Grandfather asked me what I was going to do to financially support his grandson. My reply was we will support each other.
We were married for 4 1/2 years and I moved out due to his drinking and other issues we had. Well...my name was mud. We decided to try again and I moved back in and got pregnant 2 months later. It was rocky while I was pregnant and not always a walk in the park. Still isn't. I know every marriage has its rough spots but ours haven't really gotten better except for the fact that he doens't drink as much.
So here's where they got really crappy towards me. His brother got into a terrible car accident on Easter. Their mother who left when they were about 3 and 4 found out from my husband. She called me every day asking how the brother was. Now mind you...they have had contact with her and visitation since the day she left. She lives in WA so she flew here that next Saturday. The Wednesday before she got here EVERYONE called me chewing me a new you know what saying I was causing issues and "that woman" should not be even thinking about coming to see her son who ALMOST died. I had nothing to do with their mother coming to visit. My view is if the boys want their mother in their life so be it. She is one of the nicest people I have ever met in my life and would do anything for us.
I spoke to her and let her know what was going on with instructions from my husband. Yeah...big mistake I guess.
So...his brother pulled some crap the other night with me and after I got off the phone I told my husband that I was done with his family. That was the last time they were going to walk all over me and make me a doormat. I've tried as much as I humanly can. I'm tired of it.
What do I do? It's putting a wedge between us. They pretty much do the same thing to my husband and his excuse for not standing up to them is "they are my family." Family or not family people do not deserve the crap these people dish out. I really don't want my daughter knowing them because when she's old enough to realize them for who they are she will be very disappointed. But as far as them seeing her I don't say much because I will let her make her own decisions about them.
I think I need a therapist!
Sorry its so long!